This will be an add with hopes to further understand what I already have written previously, Read Here .
The question I pose is this; Why condemn someone who is open and understanding about this addiction, and choose to use it to be held above there head, when in fact, you too may look in the mirror and be guilty of some of these same things. Regardless of the level of addiction. Regardless of how many or how few you may participate in. You too the reader may also have some slight, or major form of Sexual Addiction.
The subject has come arise in many more than a few conversations as of late. Never on my end though. The name "Sexual Addiction" seems to be misunderstood, and rightfully so. The title alone is not very flattering. In society today it will almost make you cringe.
Sexual Addiction! What are you some playboy that just has sex with whatever comes your way?
The conversation is never on my end unfortunately. So I usually do not get the chance to explain further. It always comes through a third party. Usually the aggressor using the term "Sex Addiction" or "Sex Addict" in a negative manor. Or as a pun, or justification for their own self righteousness. At first I would find it very aggravating. But now I just feel bad for the person on that end. The misunderstanding of what Sexual Addiction is. Not even taking the time to absorb the little bit I have posted about it, that I have come to understand and share. Or look up info on it themselves.
With the knowledge of the offensiveness in the name Sexual Addiction, I add to the title when speaking about it personally. I refer to it as Sexual Addiction and Social Anxiety Issues. Mainly because these two coexist when speaking about the struggles I face. The hunt for that feeling of being wanted, accepted, loved and the addiction to chemical release generated inside the brain when achieving a high cause by sexual thoughts, actions and/or encounters, usually paired with or used to achieve the prior. But most people still do not get this. They think "Sex" and "Addiction" and think I am and have always been running around on my lady.
Things that I have read about that have also been classified under "Sexual Addiction;" Frequent Pornography, Voyeurism, Exhibitionism, Empty Affairs, Use of Prostitution, Frotteurism, Cybersex, Chronic Masturbation or Self Gratification, Obsessive Sexual Thoughts, etc. All of these can be considered Sexual Addiction. Just the same, almost two thirds of them are accepted as "Normal" in our society today.
Pornography and Strip Clubs make for some of the highest profits in the world. But watching porn or going to the gentleman's club is just as accepted and normal as having lunch at the mall or turning on the tv. So much so, that most people that participate are guilty of entertaining these things at work, in traffic on their phones, in school. Children of any age can access Pornographic or close too it materials just by logging on to their social networking sites. No definite ID required.
Then there is the recreational relationships. The ones that start with sex and end with emptiness. Or on the flip side, end with sex (with someone else.) We almost never call someone out for having an addiction when they are always with someone new every time we see them. Never any downtime between. Never any wait for it to happen. It is always Go Go GO. When this fails, on to the next. Sex on the first date is the new first base of old. If your not sleeping together by the end of the month, there may be something wrong with you. You move to slow. Or so it is said.
Cybersex. That word isn't even used anymore it seems. Again, just by "logging on" to whatever social media site you choose, you will be subject to someones sexual thoughts, actions, pictures, videos and links, whether you want to be or not. And when in the mood, most people want to be. Entertaining these thoughts through video and sounds. Type it on the screen and watch them do it on the other end. Sexting? Sure. Seems to be a regular practice now days, with the rate of it rising among teens and even preteens. Skype? of coarse. How bout Skype naked? It is probably more frequent than we think.
Beyond all these there are still the hot buttons. Pedophilia, Prostitution, Public Exhibitionism, Frotteurism, Sadism and Masochism. These all still seemed to be unaccepted in everyday society. If found guilty of any of them you are sure to get some stares and backlash.
That name is Awful. I do not think it will ever be accepted.
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